ANGER IS SELF LOVE (PART 1 of 5)

Attention: I’ve decided to release a series on a subject that needs to be addressed more now than ever. Particularly in today’s climate. I’m tired of being silenced and shamed for using my voice.

So, here it goes….

How we are conditioned to express anger and how we are received for expressing it is very different for the feminine than for the masculine.

Warning: Truth Bomb!

For some: Beware, this is going to hurt.

Disclaimer: I’m talking about masculine and feminine. The impact is different for men and women.

Anger associations for the feminine are starkly different from the masculine in terms of how the expression is perceived and responded to in society. Women’s livelihoods, reputations, income, and positions are all influenced and impacted upon expressing justifiable anger, exercising, and asserting her voice.

When a man comes angry in an argument or debate, people are more likely to abandon their positions to defer to his. He is respected and seen as an authority figure.

For women, they risk their positions, respect, and careers for asserting, defending, or using their voices to bring important issues to the surface; be it protecting her interests, bringing change to struggling communities, or upending failing systems.

A woman who expresses anger is seen as unkind or unfit. She may be penalized and punished for exercising her voice if it puts pressure on the masculine to break beyond barriers for good cause. When a woman shows anger in society (quietly or boisterously), in a professional or political setting, she is met with aversion, perceived as hostile, irritable, less competent and unlikable ~ the kiss of death to her career or social connections.

Women are shushed, ignored, viewed as pushy or difficult for rocking the boat.

Even if the boat needs to be rocked.

I have always been a woman who has spoken up. Used my voice. I’ve said the difficult things that people do not want to hear. I’ve set boundaries that made me unfavorable. I’ve rocked the boat when it was a cause for justice for the greater good. I’ve stood up for myself and others when I found peoples’ actions harmful or abusive. I’ve dug my heels in the ground, standing firm in my position when I’ve been falsely accused or told something about myself that I am not. I’ve walked away from abusive and neglectful behavior, and I’ve walked away from people and positions that lacked integrity and authenticity.

This has impacted my relationships, my reputation, my careers, my communities, and my livelihood. There has been a great impact to being a woman who will not be silenced.

Yet, I have my dignity. I have self-love. And, I like living in my skin.

No one puts this lion in a cage.

Read more:

Embracing Your Fire (Part 2 of 5)

Wielding the Fire (Part 3 of 5)

The Light Becomes Her (Part 4 of 5)

Return of the Divine Feminine (Part 5 of 5)

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